Death is hard, but when it comes unexpectedly like it did on 9/11, the recent school shootings or even by a drunk driver crashing into an innocent child, it must be overwhelming for all those involved. When someone is in hospice or on life support, you may have a little time to prepare your heart, but one minute they seem to be improving and the next many are dead. By no means is the pain of death worse for one than the other. Death is death. The shock of one may be intensified by the unexpected tragedy of a loved one, but a loved one dying is hard no matter how they die.